" So long as we live among women and men, let us cherish humanity".  - André Gide (amended version)

The Fina Bella Coalition Against Domestic Violence 

 When Domestic Abuse Escalates

The following is what a terrified Nicole Brown Simpson actually said on a taped call to 911 in June 1993 while trapped in her house with O.J. Simpson. A year later she was found murdered.

"I don't want to stay on the line. He's going to beat the shit out of me".

This is what Nicole Brown Simpson said while discussing her ex-husband, O.J. Simpson, with socialite-friend Faye D. Resnick.

"I'm afraid this man will kill me some day".

Quoted in Nicole Brown Simpson: The Private Diary of a Life Interrupted, by Faye Resnick, with Mike Walker, p. 144, Dove (1994).

Her autopsy

The report indicated that she was found by authorities lying in a pool of blood across her front door step with the door open and she was so severely slashed across her neck by a knife, that she had almost been decapitated.

Nicole Brown Simpson (1957-1994), U.S.citizen and ex-wife of football player O.J. Simpson.

Warning  the following site has explicit crime scene photos www.bobaugust.com

Why this Site is Important

The above is an extreme example of how far Domestic Violence can go when the abuser loses control. However, this is not an isolated case. Every year, hundreds of similar situations occur in homes accross North America without the T.V. cameras to document it.

 On the surface, there is no definitive profile of the type of person or family that is affected. Nor does the abuser show that he/she is an abuser. All is usually well hidden. This issue is prevalent across all socio - economic levels. Why in 2009 it still exists is a mystery and the reasons are as allusive as the definitive definition of “what is the meaning of love”? Domestic Violence has no love attached to it. The abuser has an all consuming need to totally control the life of another person by whatever means he/she may deem necessary. This will eventually destroy the victim.

With our advanced technology, we have progressively improved most areas of our lives. But Domestic Violence, even though politically incorrect and wrong, is still alive and well and hasn't changed since the beginning of time. If anything, maybe because of technology, it has intensified and the abuser has gained more of a foothold and greater borders because of it.

The majority of abusers are males (97%) and projects his control on females, children and may show a tendency to over control in a work environment. In a minority of cases (3%), the abuser is a female. All generally come from an abusive childhood and dysfunctional family. Without therapy, these individuals will continue to abuse. There is a circle of abuse that occurs for generations in some families like a macabre tradition.

Statistics indicate that 33% of women have experienced an abusive event at least once in their lifetime. As we read this document, 20-25% of North American women are currently in an abusive relationship. If children are present, 60-70% will also be abused. These figures are disturbing. Also very disturbing is the realization that children in this type of relationship are predisposed to violence and could or will carry on the cycle of abuse into the next generation and without treatment, their children's lives and their children's children lives. It is also acknowledged, unfortunately too often these days, that the abuser can not only be dangerous to their intimate partner and immediate family, but also to others inside the extended family or to strangers in the wrong place at the wrong time. Depending on how the abuser can control their emotions and rage, which at best can be very unpredictable, he/she can swing from being solicitous to extremely aggressive up to and including the point of killing. The line from one extreme to the other is very thin and blurred. The abuser is a time bomb waiting to explode.

 Fina Bella has decided to be proactive on this issue and launch a program (The Fina Bella Corporate Domestic Violence Program) to assist victims, create awareness and to also address all elements of the Domestic Violence issue. To successfully do this, will require the cooperation of individuals, linking web sites, companies and strategic external partners so that we may collectively as a team, begin to break the cycle of abuse and start on a healing/rehabilitating path that will be proactive in helping all involved.

Please join with us in making Domestic Violence an issue of the past. We want as quickly as possible for it to take it's place in history where it belongs and for it to join with other antiquated subjects, issues and cruelties that men & women no longer commit.

                                Coalition/Site Dedication

                                                Je Me Souviens/I Remember

The www.finabella.org site and The Fina Bella Coalition Against Domestic Violence site is dedicated to the memory of all women, children and men throughout the world who have lost their lives because of Domestic Violence, or have been injured and still carry the scars. To those whom are now living in a violent intimate relationship and because of circumstance, are yet unable to find a way out, we are thinking of you and hope to give you the inspiration and tools to move out and safely move on with your life.

We also vividly remember that infamous day on December 6th 1989, when in less than 20 minutes, 14 young women were brutally killed, and another 10 women & 4 men were injured in the École Polytechnique Massacre ( en.wikipedia.org/wiki/%C3%89cole_Polytechnique_massacre) that took place in Montreal, Quebec, Canada.

Because of the actions of just one deranged individual, now we will never know what these intelligent women could have achieved in their lives and ultimately would have contributed to humanity. You are lost to us, but not forgotten. Your untimely deaths have brought sadness to many, but you have not died in vain, because you have helped inspire others to do better and try to find a way............

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The Fina Bella Group

 The most common desires, wants and concerns voiced by women:

"Honesty is really a big thing for women. Friends, co-workers, or a prospective partner needs to be able to tell the truth, come clean with the whole story, and stand by and for a woman". - Janice Punta of Fond du Lac

 "Violence kills and nobody believes it is detrimental to children. This world has got to wake up. To me, if there is Domestic Violence, if the children see it or hear it, that to me is detrimental. Batterers should not have rights to children".

- Denise Brown (the older sister of the late Nicole Brown Simpson)

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